Finding our place in the world is so important to many, including myself, but the world is a big place, even if you’re living in a small town, the world can seem even smaller. Going through years of education from kinder to college, a lot can be packed in all those years. Depending on where you live your education will be different, some of which will teach you the life skills to succeed in the job market and some will not.
It would be nice if in your years before going to college that certain skills could be learned as there are two major influence in our life, Parents/Guardians and Education. Going to Elementary, Middle and then High school or Secondary school, those skills were not strong areas I was taught, and my parents didn’t really seem to learn it in their education.
Coming out of secondary school I honestly was in a haze of what I wanted to do with my life, as naturally I was set to go to college, education my education a degree and I guess hope for the best afterward in the field I studied.
Finding my place after high school is probably what I needed at that point, knowing I had choices, but really those in my life did not speak to me about choices. Such as if I didn’t go to college, how I would be impacted and If I did how my life would be impacted, sometimes it’s just good to know.
What was drilled into my mind throughout life is if you don’t go to college, you will not make it, you will not be successful. Truthfully I considered that a lie in the sense that those who don’t go to college still can be successful, you just have to take a route to get where you need to go, which may including getting a job to learn certain skills and building up your career right out of high school. Whereas in college, you go to college, get your degree, and then start your professional career in the field of study you choose.
What many will not tell you is what happens after you leave college or High school, how do you find your place in the world. When it comes to finding your place, you may say, what does that mean?
Finding your place is simply finding your purpose in your life and making a difference in the world. Going through life you want to feel like what you’re doing has meaning, that you are working towards something.
Everyone is obliviously different but for myself, it took me a long time and I mean years to feel like I was finding my life’s purpose. One of the ways this happened for me was when I had a family a wife and daughter. Others look to find meaning in their careers, focusing solely on your career, trying to reach the top before they feel a sense of accomplishment.
I will say that we all have a life’s purpose and at times it’s not always clear especially going through those formative years of trying to discover what you are good at. There will be times that you will have to try different jobs and careers to have a sense of fulfillment in your professional careers.
It is said that you will change careers every five years, why is that? That is because you are changing, your skills are growing and when they grow, you essentially outgrow where your place of employment.
I can contest to changing jobs every 5 years, because simply I outgrew that role and if there were no place to grow within the organization it was time to move and there is nothing wrong with that.
I will not speak for everyone just myself when I say I worked in Jobs, places to gain skills when there were no prospects of growth after a while, my own timeline to determine this is two years, after which you will see if there are growth opportunities for you and if you will be allowed to grow.
Having a master’s degree, I am very capable of doing a lot for an organization, but that’s not how many organizations think, they do look at your skillset, but they look at other factors that may not have anything to do with the job, such as If your likable, your age and even your looks. You may think that sounds preposterous but it’s true and studies have shown that to be true, it’s an area that many struggles with.
When you are feeling like your life’s purpose is stagnant, there are some key steps you can try to take you mind of those pressures and stresses until you reach your life’s purpose which include:
I will say that finding your purpose in your career and life is not always easy, depending on how you were raised may have a different mindset. Personally, I can say that I was brought up in an environment where I was told I had no value and would never amount to anything.
I had efforts to find my purpose, but always in the back of my mind, I would not amount to anything. Although those thoughts are no longer there because I have struggled to get where I am today, it did affect how I approached my Life’s purpose and the direction I took.
I will say to you don’t ever believe those who tell you what your value is, but you will discover your incredible value on your own. You have an incredible power within you to do great things, you just need to apply yourself and it will happen.
There are so many ways to you can discover your life’s purpose but I found these key ways to help you:
Lastly, remember you are in charge of your life, your choices, your mind, and thought think positively and know you can accomplish your life’s purpose. There will be those who attempt to distract you from what you want to pursue, listen but be cautious about what advice you take, it’s not always correct. As someone who has lived and work to find my life’s purpose, it’s not perfect, but getting there each day.
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