Do you find yourself feeling too much? Do you watch TV and relate to the characters on a deep level?
If this is the case, you might be an empath. Unsure if this applies to you? Highly Sensitive Refuge lists 13 classic traits of an empath.
Do more than 2 or 3 of these apply to you? If so, chances are you are an empath. You feel emotions so deeply that you can become consumed by them.
My specific form of empathy is highly triggered by the things I watch. I find myself inadvertently putting myself in the shoes of the protagonist.
Example: When I was watching a show about a woman who lost a child, I almost had to turn it off. I started feeling a pounding in my heart, wondering what it would be like if that happened to me. It was terrible.
If this sort of thing happens to you, you may need to be careful what kinds of media you consume.
Journaling can be really useful. There are so many benefits to journaling. (Link to blog) It can help you clear your head of these negative emotions that you feel.
What is the best way to get started? Grab a notebook and pen. Every time you find yourself buried In empathetic feelings, write about it. Describe what triggered it, how you are feeling, and come up with a solution. Write about how the feelings are just in your head, and how they don’t need to ruin your day.
This is another amazing way to clear your head of junk. Just a 15-20 minute walk around the block can release feel good chemicals in your brain. This will help combat your empathetic feelings.
Does your empathy leave you incapacitated and unmotivated? Start slow. Commit to 5 minutes of jump roping or jumping jacks a day. Once that becomes easy, increase to 10 minutes. There is no shame in this. We all start somewhere!
This is advice that can benefit everyone, but especially empaths. Do you have that friend that makes you feel down in the dumps consistently after hanging out with them? Do they have a tendency to drag you into their drama?
It can be hard to think about saying goodbye to a friendship. Especially if you have been friends for a long time, or if you are related. However, to ensure that you take care of yourself, you want to surround yourself with people who build you up and make you feel good.
This is another one that I apply to my life on a daily basis. I have been making it a practice to “unplug” around 7pm every night. What do I mean by unplug?
I put my phone on the charger for the night and I say bye bye to social media. Our Facebook and Twitter newsfeeds can be massive triggers for empaths, especially in a rough political climate.
Just set it aside and make a commitment to not check social media until morning. It really helps.
It will benefit you to find someone who understands what you are going through. This can be a fellow empath, but keep their feelings in mind. They might be extra sensitive when it comes to people unloading their feelings. Make sure to always ask if it is okay if you get something off your chest.
Once you find someone, you can set weekly or monthly reminders to meet up for coffee. Or, if you need a little more support, set a daily reminder on your phone for a text check-in.
Empaths require a higher amount of self-care than more emotionally normal people. We spend so much time feeling other people’s feelings, to the point of sometimes being consumed. Make sure you are taking time to heal and restore your heart and mind.
What are some things you can do? You can say “no” when you don’t feel up to something. You can also pencil in things like time to exercise and journal as if they are appointments on your calendar. That way, you are more likely to get them done.
Now that you have seen these tips, it is time to decide which one or ones will work for you. It might be that all of them are necessary. You might only need one to see a difference. Whatever the case, stay committed to your emotional health, and you will definitely notice a difference.
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