When things go wrong, don’t drop the ball


Lisa Alioto

07 February 2020 24 comments

What do you do when things go wrong?  When you lose your job?  Your significant relationship ends? Your family is going through extremely challenging times?  When everything seems to come crashing down on you?

Does life halt in those moments for you?  Do you stop everything you are doing and regroup?  Or do you bring out the drawing board and start from scratch and see where you can go next?

Do you hit pause?   Do you put things on hold and try to find a way out of the hole that you seem to have fallen into?  Or do you brainstorm solutions to the situation and resurface when you’ve found one?

Or do you charge full speed ahead?   Head down and feet running into the other aspects of your life until the one in turmoil turns around?  Do you run until you hit the finish line that has the “solution” to the problem?

Options.. that’s the beauty of life.  There are so many options for us in every situation.  There’s generally no right or wrong answer for how to proceed.  No one way to do something.   There’s options!

And that works really well for most of us. We each are unique individuals with our own personalities and styles for handling problems.  What works for you great may flop for me.  Or what is a winning strategy for me may only make your situation worse.

It’s also why friendships can be so valuable.  Often when we are in the midst of a situation we are too deep in the weeds to see the light.  It’s often in these moments that are friends can jump in and pull us out.  They know us and oftentimes know what strategies will work best for us to get us through a particular problem.  In short, their advice can be invaluable.   This is just but one strategy to get that ball back up in the air.

Many prefer to dive inward when problems arise. We hibernate for a bit until we come up with our own solution. We prefer to keep our challenges private and arrive at our solutions internally.

Again..  options…    What we do when the ball drops and how we get ourselves out of the situation when the ball drops are situations loaded with options.  These are just a few ideas of what many of us do in such situations but really there are a dozens of variations of each, along with some completely different options.

So, what do you do when the ball drops on something big in your life?  Stop, pause, go?   Let friends in or seek the answer from within?   Or?

In these moments, a deal sure helps!

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24 thoughts on “When things go wrong, don’t drop the ball

  1. I am more of a pauser, I think. I tend to just need a day or two at least to figure out whatever’s going on and make a game plan.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I totally get that Jen – In many scenario’s I’m a pauser too!

  2. I like to pause and make a plan on my own and figure things out. It’s important to figure out what works for you in those situations x


    1. Lisa Alioto

      I like to pause in most situations too Sophie!

  3. I am more of person who still keeps going. I don’t really like to pause and think about things. I like to stay busy and I feel like that helps me get through it!
    -Charity http://www.morningsonmacedonia.com

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Staying busy is definitely a great way to go – it stops you from dwelling unproductively on the situation. Thanks for sharing Charity!

  4. Mostly I carry on! Sometimes when so many ‘big’ things happen to you over the years it sort of becomes a ‘skill’ to balance your emotions & the daily routine. I can’t think of another way to put it!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      That makes perfect sense Meaghan – essentially you adapt and carry on! That’s excellent!

  5. I am definitely more of a pauser. I find it easier to sit and reflect. Emma x

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I’m a pauser too in most situations Emma – I totally get your strategy!

  6. Pause think about what life is trying to teach me here and then move on

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Love that – “think about what life is trying to teach me here” – that’s a perfect benefit of pausing Kate!

  7. I’m definitely the kind of person that likes to sort things out asap, but I also need a moment to pause so I can figure out what I need to do.

    Love, Amie ❤
    The Curvaceous Vegan

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I am with you Amie – pause but not for long. Time to proceed!

  8. I am definitely that stop, pause and go kind of person. I keep my problems with myself and don’t like sharing with anyone else due to my introvert nature. Well every person is different 🙂

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I hear you Nisha – I’m much the same! Thanks for sharing!

  9. I try to seek the answer within. I practice meditation and journaling to get a better perspective.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Meditation and journaling are such great go-to options – I’m glad you found a method that works well for you Purba.

  10. It depends on that time of the month… sometimes I charge full speed ahead and other times I pause or hibernate. I surprise myself with the choices I make sometimes! But you’re right, we have choices and I guess that’s a silver lining in a negative situation.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Most definitely Georgianne! I love that you’ve mastered using all your options!

  11. I think everyone has its own way of dealing a situation and definitely don’t like to speed because it won’t help at all!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Yes, I agree. Each to their own! We all know what works best for us! Thanks for sharing Fransic!

  12. Friends really make a world of difference when something life-changing happens – whether or bad or good. I def tend to internalize first, but my friends do make a difference, too.

  13. Lisa Alioto

    Friends can be so priceless in such moments! Thanks for sharing The Newbury Girl!

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