What do you do when things go wrong? When you lose your job? Your significant relationship ends? Your family is going through extremely challenging times? When everything seems to come crashing down on you?
Does life halt in those moments for you? Do you stop everything you are doing and regroup? Or do you bring out the drawing board and start from scratch and see where you can go next?
Do you hit pause? Do you put things on hold and try to find a way out of the hole that you seem to have fallen into? Or do you brainstorm solutions to the situation and resurface when you’ve found one?
Or do you charge full speed ahead? Head down and feet running into the other aspects of your life until the one in turmoil turns around? Do you run until you hit the finish line that has the “solution” to the problem?
Options.. that’s the beauty of life. There are so many options for us in every situation. There’s generally no right or wrong answer for how to proceed. No one way to do something. There’s options!
And that works really well for most of us. We each are unique individuals with our own personalities and styles for handling problems. What works for you great may flop for me. Or what is a winning strategy for me may only make your situation worse.
It’s also why friendships can be so valuable. Often when we are in the midst of a situation we are too deep in the weeds to see the light. It’s often in these moments that are friends can jump in and pull us out. They know us and oftentimes know what strategies will work best for us to get us through a particular problem. In short, their advice can be invaluable. This is just but one strategy to get that ball back up in the air.
Many prefer to dive inward when problems arise. We hibernate for a bit until we come up with our own solution. We prefer to keep our challenges private and arrive at our solutions internally.
Again.. options… What we do when the ball drops and how we get ourselves out of the situation when the ball drops are situations loaded with options. These are just a few ideas of what many of us do in such situations but really there are a dozens of variations of each, along with some completely different options.
So, what do you do when the ball drops on something big in your life? Stop, pause, go? Let friends in or seek the answer from within? Or?
In these moments, a deal sure helps!
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