It gets to this time of the year and there’s always a whole lot of talk about it being “the most wonderful time of the year.” However, for a lot of people, Christmas is hard. It’s a time that reminds them of those that aren’t there with them. Christmas reminds them of all that they’ve lost. The holiday season can generally be a hard time of year for a lot of people. If any of that resonates with you, please know this; it’s okay if it’s not the most wonderful time of the year.
It’s okay to feel things at Christmas
Christmas isn’t a time when we have to automatically forget everything that we’ve got going on in our lives. It’s not a time where all negative emotions have to be thrown out of the window to make room for the holly jolly. Christmas. It’s okay if at Christmas things are too much for you. It’s okay if you feel overwhelmed by everything you’re facing. Christmas isn’t the magic antidote to all the problems you’ll ever face in your life. It’s okay if things aren’t magically better just because it’s Christmas. If you need to feel things then that’s perfectly okay.
If Christmas brings up bad memories…
For some people, Christmas rakes up memories from the past that they’d rather forget. Whether that’s memories of loved ones lost, relationships fallen apart, trauma experienced or whatever else. Christmas can be a ridiculously hard time of year for so many people. If you’re one of those people, I’m sorry. I’m sorry that Christmas is hard for you. I can’t imagine what it is that you’re going through. If Christmas brings up memories that are too hard for you to experience, then you don’t have to celebrate. You don’t have to celebrate if it’s too painful for you. Put your own mental health first over the pressure to celebrate the holiday season.
There’s help available if you need it
Just because it’s Christmas doesn’t mean that help services shut down. If you need help, then it’s always available. Here’s some helpful numbers that you can reach out to if you need to.
- Samaritans-Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair- 116 123
- Shout- crisis support in the UK- text SHOUT to 85258
- CALM- the Campaign Against Living Miserably, for men aged 15 to 35- 0800 58 58 58
- Switchboard- support for the LGBTQ+ community- 0300 330 0630
- The Mix- crisis support for under 25s- 0808 808 4994