What we focus on becomes our reality. That is why it’s so important that the self-talk and narrative that we tell ourselves is positive, productive, and healthy for us.
Become Aware of Your Narrative
What are the stories you tell yourself about you? Is your self-talk positive? I can do this… I have inner-strength… In a clutch, I am good… Or do your sentences start with, I never, I can’t, I don’t….
As a first step toward self-correcting your narrative, if you need it, you must become aware of it. Only once you are aware of it can you make changes to it. But… Why change a narrative it if it’s just internal beliefs? Well, because the stories we tell ourselves about us shape our reality. If we want a positive, productive, and healthy reality, it starts with awareness.
Get Rid of Your False Stories
Once you know your stories, divide them up between the productive ones and the non-productive ones. Take your list of unproductive ones and write stream of consciousness in a journal and really feel in your body what you’re getting from these limiting beliefs. Really push to get them all on the page. Then look carefully at your list of false rewards for what they are: scared parts of yourself seeking comfort.
Then, replace the feelings you got from these false rewards with feelings of joy, power, and excitement that stepping into who you truly are and who you will become with your new narrative will bring. Keep envisioning what it looks and feels like to have this new reality come to fruition. Repetition is key. The more you say it, feel it, believe it, the more it becomes your new story, your new reality.
Go For It
Once you have your new stories nailed down, go for it! Take action. Put them into reality through actions that reflect that new narrative and enjoy the fruits of your efforts!
This most likely will mean changing up your routine, as your new narrative will likely involve new habits. Don’t be shy – push yourself toward what will likely be uncomfortable for a bit, knowing that the longer you stick with it, it will become the new authentic you. And then… enjoy yourself and your story… for you created it, you deserve it!
What is your Reality?
Does it need some reshaping? Do you feel there are stories you tell yourself that limit your way in life? What strategies do you use to overcome them?
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