Have you ever noticed how much you worry about what people will think of what you are wearing, what you are doing or what you just said? (Or maybe you are one of the lucky few that don’t worry a bit about these things). I will fully admit that I still worry about these things at times.
Recently though, I read a book that helped me put things into perspective a bit. And let me tell you, it was quite freeing! So, I thought I would share it in case you too will find it freeing!
Trying to be Perfect
So many of us try so hard to be perfect with what we are doing and how we are presenting ourselves to the world. But let’s be honest, we will never be “perfect” because there is no perfect. There is always someone that is doing something different than us that you may perceive as “better.” In almost every case, perfection is not a set standard, but is in the eye of the beholder.
I guess what I am saying is, let’s stop trying to be perfect because perfection is a moving target and depends on who is gauging it. Instead let’s just try to be the best version of ourselves. And most importantly, let’s just try to fully be our own unique selves, because that truly is perfection.
No One is Thinking About Us That Much
This may sound disheartening but please don’t let it. It’s meant to be freeing. In reality most people are thinking about themselves. They are not scrutinizing what we say, do, or are wearing. They have their own worries and their focuses lie elsewhere. While people’s attention may be drawn to us for a moment, that attention will soon enough shift right back to where it’s always been. On themselves.
While this perspective may at first seem isolating and lonely, it’s actually quite liberating. It takes the pressure off and opens the doors and windows to let us be ourselves, knowing that any judgment that is coming our way is fleeting at best.
Moral of the Story
Be you and know that being you is always more than enough! When you know you’ve done your best – that is perfection, whether someone else judges it as such or not. It’s your opinion that matters the most. And while there will always be critics, remember that these same critics have short attention spans. Even if you have a notable setback, their attention will be fleeting and they will quickly move on to the next shiny object!
Do You Worry about the “Critics?”
Do you worry what others think of you? Fret about not being perfect? How do you handle this – what strategies work best for you? How do you “free” yourself from these thoughts?
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