Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU


Lisa Alioto

11 February 2020 32 comments

Valentine’s Day… bouquets of roses, boxes of chocolates, romantic cards…..   Love is in the air and happiness seems to be oozing from every place you go and everywhere you look.  It’s in the stores, on Facebook, television shows…. it’s EVERYWHERE!

It can mean a day filled with loving moments.  A day in which absolutely nothing is different that day for you.  Or, it can be a day that creates or increases your feelings of isolation and loneliness.

If you are “coupled” it may mean an intimate evening with your loved one.  Whether that’s a fancy dinner, jewelry, chocolates, a movie night, or just some quality time together, it’s often a night to remember.

Or, it may be a day at home alone.  Possibly feeling isolated and lonely.  Watching these couples, these scenes on television, and perhaps longing for someone to look at you the way these couples gaze into each other’s eyes.

If you are not in a relationship, Valentine’s day can take any isolation you are already feeling to new levels.  You may feel even more alone than ever.  It seems that all that love in the air almost becomes mocking or suffocating when you are alone.

So, what do we do?? The first thing I’ve found helpful to remember, is that it’s just a day. And like any other day, it’s what you make of it.  If you know you are likely to feel bouts of loneliness and sadness on Valentine’s day, arm yourself ahead of time with a self-care kit.  Splurge a bit! Treat yourself to a massage or set aside some time for meditation.  Really dig deep that day to reach inner peace or perhaps practice some gentle yoga to re-energize yourself a bit.  Or, dedicate some extra time with a good book you have been looking forward to reading (or listening to!). Whatever are you go-to comfort items, keep them handy if you think Valentine’s day may be a particularly rough day for you.

And most of all, don’t forget that any love that you will find outside of your house is not as important as making sure you have self-love and that you are taking care of yourself.  While Valentine’s Day has been commercialized into a day all about couples and gifts from others, don’t forget about the most important gift.  The gift you can give yourself that day and every day.  All the self-care, love, and attention you deserve.  Take the day to pamper yourself in big or small ways because if anyone deserves it, it’s you.  Take a moment and let Valentines just be all about you.  Whether that’s you with your loved one or you treating yourself to a special day of self-love, special treats, and comfort items. Pamper the heck out of yourself!

Happy Valentine’s Day to you!

Psst.  Here’s some extra treats/deals for you!

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32 thoughts on “Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU

  1. This is so great! We often forget about ourselves on Valentine’s Day. Self love is the greatest gift you can give 🙂

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Yes! Yes! Yes Jen! It’s such a great day to really go all out on the self-love and self-care!

  2. I love the idea of taking the day to treat yourself. I’ve always seen it as just a day whether I’ve been in a relationship or not because I’m not keen on how overly commercialised it is but I’ll happily take it as an excuse to pamper myself x


    1. Lisa Alioto

      Most definitely take it as a day to pamper yourself – you deserve it Sophie!

  3. I loved this post!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Thank you Natasha!

  4. Great post! Self love is the best Valentine Gift. Thanks for sharing!!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Thank you Aditi! It sure is! 🙂

  5. I loved reading your post. This is such a great way of seeing it. Thank you for reminding me of self-love. Even though I believe that we should celebrate love daily I sometimes forget to self- love, so I will most definitely do it this valentine’s day.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Darina, I’m really glad that you enjoyed the article and that it reminded you of the value of self-love! I hope you have a wonderful Valentines day!

  6. This is just what I needed to read today! So it’s Feb 14th, I love my family and friends today like every other day of the year. I’m also single and suffer from depression and anxiety today probably more than other days. This post is awesome! Thank you so much!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it Sharon! Happy Valentines day from me to you!

  7. It’s self-care and self-love is a great way to celebrate valentine’s day! Happy valentine’s day to you too. Lovely post.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Thank you Nilakshi – happy Valentines day to you as well!

  8. Great posts! I actually got myself a treat on the way to work today while getting treats for my office!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Good for your Melissa! Today is a day of pampering!!

  9. I really liked the advice that V day is after all “just another day” and we should take it as such. If we love our special someone we should love them every day and not wait for that one day when we shower all our love and be indifferent to the rest of the days.

  10. Lisa Alioto

    So so true Trishan!!

  11. I always thought of Valentine’s Day as ‘just another day’ as you put it. I really like the self care tips you shared. Great post!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I’m glad you like the self-care tips Kimerley and that you enjoyed the post! Thanks for stopping by!

  12. Well said and pared with great advice. Those “single V-days” were the worst.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Thank you Sissy! Happy Valentines Day to you!

  13. Yes yes yes! Self-love always 🙂

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I agree Julia – self-love always. Every day, any day! 🙂

  14. I love the idea of being your own Valentine and indulging in a pamper day. So often, we put others first. So it would be a great treat to prioritize yourself for a change.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Most definitely Poovanesh! A perfect day to pamper oneself! 🙂

  15. Great post, Lisa! Self-love is so important in this day and age, whether you’re single or not. As you said, Valentine’s Day is just a day and our self-worth shouldn’t be hinged on whether we get love and presents from someone else or not, because we are more than capable of giving those things to ourselves.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Corrine you’ve nailed it! You are so, so right!

  16. Yes, I never feel so lonely for being single for 22 years. I love Valentines and will always celebrate it no matter what. If we do have self care and love to our self then that’s important! I love this post!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I’m so glad you love the post April! Yes, self-care and self-love is the key to it all!! 🙂

  17. Great post, Lisa! I couldn’t agree more, who says Valentines Day is all about couples? Self-love and pampering is every bit as important, we all need to do more of that 🙂

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Thank you Lisa – I’m glad you enjoyed the post! I agree – we definitely all need to do more of that! 🙂

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