Finding Your Own Happiness


Lisa Alioto

10 September 2020 24 comments

Happiness has been defined as “a sense of well-being, joy, or contentment.”  Okay, but practically speaking, what is happiness?  How do I find happiness and once found how do I keep it?

Finding Happiness

As we all know happiness can be elusive at times, and darn right hard to find at other times.  However, there are also time when it comes at us in abundance and we find ourselves overjoyed and crazy happy!  So how do we have more of these times?

I’m not an expert, but to do so I tend to encourage a lot of self-exploration and introspection.  For example, during these happy moments, what are you doing?  What is it about what you are doing that is making you happy?

Also, how do you identify it?  Is it a flutter in your heart?  A spark that you feel to your core?  A smile that just won’t leave your face?

All these are signs that you have found what makes you happy.  A little self-reflection in these moments to get to the core of this happiness will allow you to replicate it more often.

For example, if taking on a new project lights a spark in you, think about what it is that lights that spark.  Is it because it is new?  Because it is challenging?  What is it about that project that makes it special to you?  Once you have put this extra bit of thought into the true source of your happiness you can work toward continually finding projects that make you happy.

Why is Finding Happiness Important

I’m not a doctor by any means, but I do know that when you are happy that your body relaxes, your stress levels go down, and you are less likely to do self-defeating behaviors.  All these things are good things for our body and us in general.

Plus, who doesn’t want more happiness in their life?  Who doesn’t like to smile often?  Feel joy and exuberance often?  It’s a great feeling that we all deserve in abundance and often!  Let’s face it – life can be hard.  The more happiness we can bring into it the better.

Have you Found the True Source of Your Happiness?

How did you find it? What did it take to uncover the source of what made you happy?  As a result, have you found ways to then bring more of it into your life?

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24 thoughts on “Finding Your Own Happiness

  1. Loved this post! Happiness has been on my mind a lot lately. Mainly because while we are encouraged by the media and society to associate happiness with material success or something ‘big’. Lately, after overcoming a period of tremendous anxiety and a share of depression, I came to open my eyes, truly, and look at what I have right next to me. I have friends that make me smile and love me. I have this thing called internet where I can find someone to talk too at all times. I live in a city which allows me to go outside. I have food that is yummy and I can cook it or even order something if I don’t want to cook that day. I have a functional body, I have books… It has become very important to me to forget about what society wants from me and tells me that should make me happy and actually stop and enjoy what I already have.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Good for you – it sounds like you have found great ways to appreciate the world around you!! So happy for you it makes me smile for you!

  2. I certainly have not got to a point of finding what works for me in terms of happiness, but I guess it’s not like you achieve it once and that’s it, you can tick that off. I really like the different aspects you’ve included here – lovely post.

    Lindsey |

  3. Lisa Alioto

    Thank you Lindsey – I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Wishing you much happiness!

  4. Great post. It’s so important that we find our own happiness. A type of happiness that doesn’t rely on other people. I’ve got a few things that make me happy, regardless.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      That’s awesome Jenny – that makes me happy 🙂

  5. My source of eternal happiness is when I am working and the work I am doing is being praised ? Thank you for sharing this ?

    1. Lisa Alioto

      That is fabulous Anish – what a great source of happiness!

  6. I love this post! Finding happiness is so important! 🙂

    1. Lisa Alioto

      It so is – life is too short not to be happy 🙂

  7. Well for me, When I take up a challenging task, and become successful in it, I feel happy.

    Thanks for sharing this

    1. Lisa Alioto

      That is awesome Margaret – I’m glad you found your happy place!

  8. Personally, I found my true happiness by being more accepting of who I am, loving myself and being content with what I have. I intend to keep the happiness by continuing to make the most of what I have now, rather than lament on what I could have had.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      You are blessed Mary – so happy for you!

  9. For me it is definitely a work in progress. I am getting closer to identifying the things that can really make me emotionally well. That’s a start!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      It’s definitely a start – enjoy the journey! 🙂

  10. Happiness has really taken a knocking this year so it has been finding things that make me happy, or at least contented, in more unusual places and situations.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I hear you – it’s been a challenging year for sure!

  11. Finding happiness is so important! This was such a great post, thanks for sharing!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      You are welcome Charity – I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  12. It is so important to find your own happiness that you defined. Otherwise, you are not living to your own fullest terms.

    Nancy ✨

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Exactly Nancy – you’ve nailed it!

  13. Great post! I’ve been thinking about happiness a lot lately. About 5-6 years ago I decided to prioritize my happiness, and since then have been much happier than I was previously. Overall I feel pretty happy, but I feel that I am still looking for my purpose in life and have been on a good reading spree about happiness and purpose lately. It’s always a topic that has interested me.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Me too Clarissa – there is so much out there on happiness. I feel like a sponge absorbing it all and integrating it into my life

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