Finding Self-Care in our Fun Purchases


Lisa Alioto

23 March 2021 24 comments

I think everyone has them.  You know, the purchases that are not necessary but bring you some kind of joy.  For some, they are games, puzzles, plants, books, etc…    Its range is broad and the need it fills is just as wide.

What do we do if we are broke but still want these pieces of joy in our life?  Somehow, I feel that if you want it bad enough you will find a way.  Whether it’s buying it second hand, “recycling” your current collection, or trading in old versions for new ones.  Whatever the method, we always seem to find a way to fill our “need” for these items.


For me, it’s candles of every shape and size, but scent is a whole other story. I like fresh, natural scents.   Whether that’s cashmere, cotton, vanilla, fireside, birch, whatever…. Bring me a fresh scented candle and I am happy.  Better yet, there are the candles that crackle that add an extra layer of ambiance to the whole experience.

So why do I need so many candles?  Well, first, to be honest, I don’t “need” them but I really, really want them.   I think it’s important for us all to have things in our life, frivolous as they may seem to others, that bring us joy, act as distractions, or stimulate us in a fun way.


I’ve almost started calling them my pandemic puzzles as they have gotten me through hours of the long days at home.   They do a great job of passing the time and there’s a great sense of accomplishment when one is completed.  Or even one hard to find place for piece that fits into the puzzle is a win.

I know that many of us have turned to puzzles to get us through the pandemic.  They are an easy, fun source of entertainment and they are generally very affordable.  Especially if you buy/sell them as you go!


This all really boils down to taking proper care of ourselves.  We all need to find ways to make sure that mentally and physically we are doing okay at all times.   While there are many, many kinds of self-care, I think it’s important to acknowledge that sometimes self-care takes the form of material items in addition to things like long baths, meditation, and yoga.

While we all have different things that provide a means to self-care, sometimes it really is just these material things that we need to fill our time, to distract us and to bring us joy.  There’s nothing to feel guilty about.   Even if we are on a tight budget, there are plenty of ways to fulfill these needs while still maintaining a tight budget.

If you deprive yourself of these things, you may soon find yourself longing for them.  Perhaps even a bit sad.   Don’t let anyone tell you are being materialistic for finding joy in things because realistically we all have some “things” in life that bring us joy.   Yes, experiences and relationships are still key to a healthy life, but so are these self-care items.  Relish them, guilt-free!

What things bring you joy?

What things do you find you buy over and over again to help with your self-care?  Are there things that you still buy that you don’t necessarily “need” but want, even when your budget is tight?


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24 thoughts on “Finding Self-Care in our Fun Purchases

  1. I LOVE shopping! It is great when you can enjoy some self-care products while shopping at the same time. Thanks for sharing!

    Nancy ♥

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Thank you for stopping by Nancy – always a pleasure to hear from you!

  2. Buying a new book is one of my favorite things! it always brings me joy. Also a new blanket is a great one!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Yes! Yes! I love both of those things too!

  3. I don’t do a lot of shopping as I don’t really like buying myself things but when I do, it does make me feel better especially if it’s something really nice or something I need. I recently bought myself a new dress and it made me so happy!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Good for you Jenny! i”m pretty thrifty too but when I do buy I treat I really cherish it!

  4. It’s therapeutic! I find joy in books, accessories, cosmetics and shoes. ????

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I agree – it’s very therapeutic!

  5. Candles and lipsticks are my go-to self care treats – those and new plants for our garden, works every time! Lisa 🙂

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Great self-care items Lisa!!

  6. I love candles too! Have to have them for cosy self-care nights!

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Me too Hannah!

  7. It’s definitely candles for my partner too, we have a house full of them ????

    For me it s probably computer games, I’m no gamer, and I don’t play all the time, but i like to try and get 30-60 mins a day in, where I can switch off from everything and just play a game.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      I’m glad you found your fun self-care activity – I think that’s priceless!

  8. Candles are great, I love them; always have one burning somewhere. I do way too much shopping, but then again, it is usually always items to make something with so is therapeutic in the end!

    Thanks for sharing!

    Aimsy xoxo
    Aimsy’s Antics

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Therapeutic items are key! I’m glad you found yours!! 🙂

  9. Candles or a new book are great pick me ups if we’re talking about smaller things but a bag is the ultimate treat myself purchase for me. A little present to yourself can be a great pick me up when you need it x


    1. Lisa Alioto

      Absolutely Sophie (love your choices!)

  10. I am a minimalist, and I agree with you. I don’t buy a bunch of stuff just because I can or because everyone else seems to have it. But when I see something that would make me truly happy, I buy it guilt-free.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Good for you Brooke!! We all need to treat ourselves in this way every now and again!

  11. Neat choices!

    I love visiting flea markets for second hand books and antique furniture. I don’t really buy much but just taking a stroll and looking at things is therapeutic for me.
    Crafting a mini fairy garden to gift someone also makes me happy; it’s so whimsical and fun.

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Those are fantastic options – I love the mini fairy garden idea!

  12. Hi Lisa, it’s funny you mentioned candles because I love them too! They just add more depth to an otherwise dull atmosphere. I particularly like anything crisp and citrusy scents like lemongrass. Cake also makes me happy! Especially if it’s something I didn’t have to bake myself 😀

    1. Lisa Alioto

      Ahhh…. cake. That is a great one!

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